What is "Pansexuality"? An Interview With Pansexual Writer Ryn Pfeuffer

Our world is slowly becoming more inclusive of human gender and sexual preferences and experiences, which is leading to more common usage of terms like 'pansexual'.

What is 'pansexuality'?

I was thrilled when badass Sex and Relationship Writer, author of 101 Ways to Rock Online Dating and self-described pansexual, Ryn Pfeuffer, agreed to sit down and talk to me about pansexuality.

Ryn, What does the term 'pansexual' mean? 

In Greek, the “pan” prefix means “all.” According to the Human Rights Campaign, someone who is pansexual “has the potential for emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction to people of any gender.” 

Is pansexuality considered to be part of the LGBTQIA2s+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer (questioning), intersex, asexual, agender, two spirit) spectrum?

Oh, yes. For sure. Pansexuality is part of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum – it’s part of the “+”, like demisexual, omnisexual, and polysexual, grey asexual, and many more.  UC Davis Health offers this comprehensive LGBTQ+ glossery. 

How does pansexuality differ from bisexuality?

Pansexuality differs from bisexuality in that we’re attracted to people regardless of their gender, whereas bisexuality implies attraction to two or more genders. 

 While no one should ever feel they have to disclose their sexual orientation if they don't want to, being able to openly discuss sexuality with close friends, partners and family can be very helpful. What is the best way to approach a discussion about being pansexual?

You’re right. No one should ever feel obligated to disclose their sexual orientation. That said, it’s your decision if, when, and how you want to disclose your sexual orientation. And how and what you share may vary from person to person. You may want to take some time to think about what you want to say and how you want to say it. Also, mentally prepare for how people may respond. Sometimes these conversations go swimmingly; other times they don’t go as planned. People may ask questions. You don’t have to have all the answers, nor do you have to answer anything that’s uncomfortable or inappropriate. It’s not your responsibility to educate others (unless of course, you choose to). Websites like GLAAD and the HRC are great sources for learning more about pansexuality. When you’re done having this kind of talk, check in with yourself and see how you’re feeling. Coming out can be an emotional experience, and it’s important to take care of yourself in the process. Reach out to your support system, do something you enjoy, or connect with your body. 

 If someone you love is pansexual or within the LGBTQIA2S+ spectrum, how can you best show up and support them? 

I actually just wrote an article for Pride Month on this topic. Check it out here. 

Do you have any further wisdom to share with readers about pansexuality?

For me, pansexuality allows me to reject the gender binary – it is a social construct, after all.  

Thank you so much for sitting down with me for this important conversation.